Q: What do you mean “Not just a baby mama”?

A: I am the single mother of three beautiful little girls, but that’s not all I am. Being a mother is one of the most enlightening and rewarding experiences of my life, but it is not the only role I’ll play in life. My experience as a single mother or a “baby mama” as so many people like to label us, has sometimes left me feeling incomplete and like someone else’s option. One day I decided to stop pitying myself and start acknowledging the many roles I play in the lives of others and how my dreams work in relation to those roles. It was at that moment that I declared that I am not JUST a baby mama. I am smart. I am capable. I am a good friend. I am to always be respected. I am better than good enough and I am nobody’s option. And with that, Not Just a Baby Mama was created. While the world is always going to tell you what you are not, notjustababymama.com will always remind you that you can have anything you’re willing to work for. Open yourself up to the possibilities.

Q: Is this site just for single mothers?

A: NO. NJBM is for all women. The purpose of Not Just a Baby Mama is to ensure that all women understand that we are not just an option… not our physical being, our emotions, our children, or our resources. The journey begins with you; open yourself up to the possibilities. So, whether or not you have children, this site is for you! Any woman, regardless of age, color, or status has the potential to be treated less than and we’re here to tell you that you’re nothing less than a gift to the world and we want to help unwrap what we already know is in the box.

Q: What’s your definition of a baby mama?

A: A women whose needs, feelings, or opinions are disregarded until others decide to deal with them. Children are not a requirement, because as a woman, we all have the potential of being a mother. Because you have a vagina you have the potential of being just another baby mama. A baby mama may be married, young, and old, Black, White, Latina, educated, or in the midst of a transition…we are all at risk if we don’t start to embody that bright bold light we all possess and demand that others acknowledge and respect that light.
Not Just a Baby is here to tell you about all the wonderful things you are and are capable of being. Not only are you not just a baby mama, you’re nobody’s option. You, you’re wellbeing, and your feelings are a PRIORITY. But before you and all that makes you who you are can be a priority to anyone else, YOU MUST BECOME A PRIORITY TO YOURSELF FIRST. Take time and think about what is holding you back and acknowledge it. So what, you had children earlier than expected, maybe you dropped out of school, you just can’t let go of an unhealthy relationship or maybe you can’t let go of a past hurt. Whatever it is, you have to face it and tell it what you are. Open your eyes to the possibility that you can be greater than you are right now.